- rejection, so she doesn’t commit.
- vulnerability, so she stonewalls.
- society, so she imprisons herself.
- the outdoors, so she doesn’t go anywhere.
- the unknown, so inhabits her comfort zone.
- humiliation, so won’t try.
- chaos, so she avoids change.
- criticism, so feigns inadequacy.
- losing control, so won’t allow herself to feel.
- conflict, so she won’t assert herself.
- the now, because it might bore her.
- the past, so escapes to the future.
- the future, so she fantasizes.
- life, so shoots people all day.
- death, because she has no morals.
- the truth, so forfeits meaning.
- responsibility, so will never be free.
- herself, so distracts herself from herself.
- the written word, so blinds herself into illiteracy.
- her mind, so she narcotizes.
- her values, so she won’t examine them.
- expectations, knowing she will not live up to them.
- her emotions, so she is an emotional child.
- reality, so she deludes her narrative.
- logic, so behaves irrationally.
- true love, so won’t commit.
- fear itself, so she is enslaved by it.
I remember my fearful days. I had to ask myself some serious questions, such as:
- Is the fear legitimate?
- What’s the worst case scenario?
- What’s likely to happen?
- Is that worse than the situation now?
- Am I being 100% honest with myself?
And I learned an empowering phrase I still use today, on a daily basis whenever I find myself fearful, avoidant, procrastinating, or hesitant. I tell myself aloud to “fkit” and do it regardless of what my over-analytical mind is thinking.